A Happy Ending: Chill Out to Relieve Stress & Increase Your Sex Drive
In The Mood? …NOT
Sex? Sounds great but sometimes you just don’t feel in the mood.
And then it happens again...Too tired.
And again…Too much to think about at work…
And again…equipment malfunction…
That alone can be stressful and pressure inducing.
Then you head to work the next day concerned about performance or the lack of performance the night before.
At work, instead of focusing on creating the next great innovation, you focus on why you can’t get in the mood.
It’s no surprise that Viagra sales have been going through the roof.
While sex can be a great stress reliever, often people who are the most stressed find their sex drive suppressed. Ironically, the very people who could benefit from stress-relieving sex don’t feel like having it!
Just like with many other stress-related problems, the lack of libido combined with an increase in stress can create a vicious cycle that can be difficult to escape.
Understanding the connection between stress and sex drive will help reveal ways that chilling out with some simple mindfulness techniques can break the the cycles of low libido and stress.
What’s the Low Down on Why Stress Reduces Sex Drive?
Whether related to work, family, or finances, chronic stress can cause health problems like heart disease, but it also can damper your enjoyment of life, including reduced libido. Chronic stress can cause hormone imbalance, sleep deprivation, weight gain, and anxiety. All of these things can reduce your sex drive!
Under stress, your body slows the production of sex hormones and increases stress hormones, including a key stress hormone, cortisol. Cortisol gives your body a quick burst of energy to help get you out of danger. But in the long run, high levels of cortisol may increase the risk of erectile dysfunction.
Counting Sheep is NOT Sexy
Stress can seriously impact sleep. Often, stress leads to sleepless nights. Sleepless nights lead to fatigue. Fatigue leads to reduced energy for everything—including sex. Basically, you don’t snooze, you lose.
It’s Not Whether You are Sexy, It’s Whether You Think You Are!
For some people, body image is extremely important in whether or not they feel like having sex. People who experience chronic stress often make poor health choices, like eating less healthy meals, skipping the gym, and losing sleep. All of these factors are also culprits for weight gain. People who are stressed can gain weight, feel badly about their bodies, and become less interested in sex because they feel unattractive. Also, cortisol is responsible for creating the layer of fat around your waist dreadfully called, “the tire.”
How Intimate Can You Be When You’re Anxious & Worried?
Long-term stress often leads to anxiety, leaving the brain swimming in a sea of worry. A person who is distracted by worry often doesn’t have the capacity or the energy to foster real intimacy with their partner.
Chill Out for Deeper Connections
Learning to chill out and practicing some easy meditation and mindfulness techniques can directly and indirectly improve sex drive by reducing stress, balancing hormones, increasing sleep patterns, and opening the mind to intimate emotions. Research shows that techniques like these can open the mind and body to feelings of compassion, love, understanding, and warmth. This can promote deeper emotional connections between sexual partners and often result in increased libido.
One study researched the effects of mindfulness-based cognitive behavioral therapy for women who experienced severe libido reduction problems. When compared to a control group, the women reported that mindfulness was very helpful in increasing sexual arousal and desire while reducing sexual distress. The women found the practices to be so helpful that they incorporated them into their daily lives.
Chilling out and simple meditation and mindfulness techniques can improve sex drive. One study performed at Loyola University found that a couple’s sex life can be improved by practicing breathing exercises, massage, and yoga postures together.
A Happy Ending
Considering the delicate balance between the mind and body, it’s no surprise that stress can destroy sex drive. But, there is a way out! Learning a few natural, effective mindfulness techniques to chill can actually strengthen your libido and sex drive! How’s that for a happy ending?
Be Well, Be Joyful, Be Inspired…
Have a Beautiful Day…